Many people associate sex to a drag race and think that they can achieve orgasm while “flooring the accelerator” and when they follow a set of guidelines that is applicable for all. There are those who believe that there is a set of rules that must be followed in order to achieve orgasm. Unfortunately, there are a lot of intangibles that have to be included in the equation in order to become a better and more effective performer in bed.
Nothing beats the taglines such as “what makes your woman orgasm” or “what do men look for in sex?” These are what get the attention of people. Write a 500-word article entitled “10 ways to satisfy your partner in bed” and you will surely get a good traffic to your site or blog. Unfortunately, sexual gratification does not follow a simple 1-2-3 formula. Those titillating 3-minute readings that promise quick solution to all sorts of problems in bed will turn out to be useless stuff and can only cause more confusion, dissatisfaction and frustration.
The truth of the matter is that sexual orgasm is more complicated than it may seem, and you have to remember that you “can’t build Rome overnight.” It takes a great deal of your time and effort in order to achieve the perfect orgasm.
One good way to fully understand the nuances of sexual performance and sexual gratification is to compare them with our eating behavior. While it is true that we need to consider the nutritive value of the food that we eat to ensure that we are giving our body all the essential nutrients, this does not necessarily mean that we should eat the same foodstuff, thrice daily. If we follow this line of thinking, this means that we won’t care much whether what we eat is tasty or not, and we would be perfectly satisfied with any food as long as we meet the nutritional requirements in our food intake are met. This is possible if we have identical bodies, since we will have the same nutritional and dietary requirements and food preferences.
We are well aware that this is not how it works. In fact, this is a ridiculous way of looking at our eating habits. Sex can be defined in the same way. No two persons are exactly the same in their sexual needs and preferences, notwithstanding the similarity in the physiology of our bodies. We have to consider certain psychological, hormonal and physical dynamics that come into play when we engage in sexual activities. Once we are able to gain sufficient knowledge and understanding of these critical aspects of our sexuality, then half of our battle is already won. This aspect of our task, once completed, sets the essential foundation for a healthy and satisfying sexual encounter.